Why so curious?


For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Romans 8:6

Ever notice how it’s harder to resist the temptation of “taking a little peek” than to straightaway look over? There’s nothing wrong with being curious in general.  Curiosity is the desire to know things, but the curiosity of the flesh is the exception to the rule. The curiosity of the flesh is the desire to know sin. Our fleshly/carnal nature is the thirstiest, “Can I get just a sip? Dip my toe in? I’ll do anything just for a little bit of sin…” most desperate, ravenous harlot for sin.  No matter how holy you try to live, we all have a personal THOT we have to contend with. It will always want more no matter how much you give in. That craving will never be satisfied; if you allow yourself to be exposed to a little bit, you only strengthen the influence for more.

Now unfortunately, the enemy knows this information and knows what to do with it. Satan has mastered the ability to game up our flesh. Think about it, the moment you say no to that temptation; what does the enemy do? Start making negotiations a.k.a. throwing game at your flesh….”You ain’t gotta smoke, just go over there and hang out…you can hang out.”  GAME. “Ok you ain’t going over his/her house, but you can call them. No? Well just text them and see what he/ she doing…you can say Hi.” GAAAAME! Who is first to co-sign on these (compromises) negotiations??? Your flesh.  You say no, but you weighing the pros and cons….. Meantime, that carnal desire has become even stronger because now you’ve entertained the enemy by allowing him to occupy space in your head. That hang out turns into a smoke out, for the purpose of leading to you being strung out. That text lead to being in somebody’s bed; illegally connected to them and legally separated from God.


And so what do we do with this wretched, ratchet, fleshly nature that we have?


But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. Romans 13:14

Putting on the LORD Jesus

When we put on Jesus, we put Him on as a garment tailored in His size that we must conform ourselves to, in order to wear Him. Jesus doesn’t conform to fit us. That’s done. He wore us on the cross.  We are supposed to fit in Christ. Publicly and privately. When you represent Him, you look like Him. Yes, it can be challenging; but we get more wearing Jesus than wearing our carnality. When we put on Jesus, we put on His righteousness, peace, love, discernment, power, authority and then some! Everything we need to be spiritually minded, free and strong. We need to take on the nature of Jesus Christ and live a lifestyle that plainly identifies that Jesus is Lord over our lives.

Make No Provision

We have to STARVE our Flesh. Don’t give it a crumb, a peek, a call, a text, a picture…you get what I’m saying. The less you feed it; the less influence it will have. I have found my flesh reacts spiritually the same way it does naturally to starvation. When I don’t eat food, I get hunger pains. When I starve my flesh from sin, my flesh starts giving me hunger pains for sin. The Good part is: Much like the natural rule, the longer you withhold, the strength in the hunger pains wanes. The hunger pains dwindle to the point where you forget you was hungry is the first place. Then, your fleshly nature becomes weak. Weak flesh sucks in the natural, weak flesh is great spiritually, dead flesh is even better.  But the caveat is we only have the power to make the choice to starve our flesh and diminish its influence through the power of Jesus Christ.


Roman 8:5-13

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. 6For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. 8So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God. 9But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is not His. 10And if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. 11But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you. 12Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. 13For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.


Post Script: Don’t listen to enemy and don’t look at what he’s pointed at. Nothing he says or does is useful to us; it’s only useful to his goal.  That goal is to kill us, steal from us, and destroy us. (John 10:10) The Bible says in James 4:7 Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Resist means: to take action in opposition to. If you keep responding to temptation with Reading your word, or prayer or worship…he will eventually stop messing with you in that area because when you put on Jesus, you break down his power of influence.


Because I Love Him, I am Patient with Him ~ How I overcame “Me” to be Patient with “Him”



I don’t want to be romantic about patience, but it is, all about love (1 Corinth. 13:4).  I believe patience is an essential and beautiful display of love in marriage. When I married Jason, I vowed before God to permanently unify my journey of life with his. Patience gives me and my husband the ability to persist in loving each other through difficult or frustrating situations. Love expressed through patience is essentially saying, “I will lovingly wait for you and facilitate a loving atmosphere for us to grow together.”

Now with that being said, it was definitely a process for me to become a patient wife.  Patience can only be manifested under antagonistic conditions. I can’t speak for everybody, but when challenges present themselves, especially in my marriage; my flesh likes to volunteer itself as a hindrance to responding correctly. There were two specific stumbling blocks I had to avoid when I wanted to be patient.

At first, what reared itself was pride. It was very enticing to look down at my husband because I am stronger than he is in particular areas. When I was prideful, even my approach to help him was unconsciously and sorry to say, effortlessly; condescending. I don’t have to tell you how counterproductive that is. Nobody likes to be treated or perceived less than who they are, especially from their spouse. My arrogant pride, had done, just that. Definitely not the most loving way to help someone. However, pride didn’t distract me very long. God reminded me that I didn’t just jump out the womb, knowing the things I know. I had to go through the process of learning, and I wasn’t taught just for my benefit. I was also being prepared to become a resourceful, life-long helpmate to my husband. Besides, Jason is stronger in areas that I struggle with. I am pretty sure patience with me is much required in those areas. Moreover, God also recapped how patient He has been, and still is with me. That reminder, pretty much shut down any temptation to be prideful.


Secondly, perhaps the biggest struggle, the one I really found to have enmity with my patience, was selfishness. The Bible says that love isn’t selfish or self-seeking (1 Corinthians 13:5). Patience unites where selfishness divides. I say “where” because the exact place where patience is needed; selfishness volunteers itself as an instrument of division in marriage. In my selfishness, I have found myself thinking, “I know this. Why can’t he figure it out?  Why can’t he just…..or why do I have to deal with this and I already know this?”  My selfish thinking had me completely dismiss myself from my role in my husband’s journey for success. Which means we both were in position to fail. Selfishness puts me in position to fail as his helpmeet; and him in position to fail because I left him without one.  Patience has always challenged me to think outside of myself.  It demands that I intimately connect my development of maturity to my husband’s development of maturity.

Essentially, we are growing as One.  Patience has become a motivator for praying more, speaking in Love, consistency in my worship, exercising wisdom, gaining understanding, and learning how to function as One with my husband. Doing these things has made me not only a better wife, but spiritually stronger and disciplined.  My husband is also growing in a loving atmosphere that empowers him to be all God has called him to be.  I have found peace in being patient because I am more focused on the bigger picture. I love him better in patience, than in frustration.